Lessons Learned. But Mistakes Are Good, Here’s Why

Where do I start? The thing is, lessons are hard to learn; that’s why they’re called lessons and not “cotton candy that teaches you junk” (or something like that). I recently learned a very hard lesson and I want to share it with you all.

I recently ended a work relationship the wrong way. It was abrupt and full of emotion, where it should have been calculated and professional. But it wasn’t and it might damage my future. I was upset and this was one of the few times when I let my emotion get the best of me and it clouded my judgment and I acted out of turn.

I learned ANOTHER valuable (albeit) painful lesson about this industry: you’re only as good as your last. Despite everything leading up to that point, all of the good, that ONE bad outweighed it and it sucks (for lack of a better word). Hindsight is 20/20 and we have ALL got to learn somehow.

The thing is: I’m human. I make TONS of mistakes and from each of those mistakes? I learn, I’ve learned where I want to be, where I don’t want to be, what feeling is okay, what feeling is NOT okay, etc. and I learned for me and you. I don’t want you to make the same mistakes, but if you do, take it from me; you can pick yourself right back up and keep going, just like I am.

So next time you “fail” or make a mistake, remember this: we NEVER learn from constant victory, but we do learn from a slip up or 2. I hope your week is good and I hope you chase your dreams.

Until next time,

XOXOXO,

Jess AsPRing

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2 responses to “Lessons Learned. But Mistakes Are Good, Here’s Why

  1. Jess, I understand how you feel.
    Here’s my personal story of a lesson learned the hard way I’d like to share. After four internships I finally landed what I thought was a dream come true and a payoff for all my hard work: a permanent position in the communications field. However, at the same time I had already accepted a temp position with an excellent company. I called the temp agency and let them know I couldn’t do it because I had accepted a permanent position.

    It became one of the worst decisions I made in my career. The director and the communications specialist were horrible to work for (absolute curmudgeons) and I wasn’t treated with respect. Also, in my initial meeting I was told the position was part-time and I thought they meant 20-25 hours a week. Imagine my extreme disappointment when I discovered my weekly schedule was 12 hours a week for the next three months until the start of their busy season. The position was seasonal so it meant it had a limitation on how many days and hours I could work.

    And, they didn’t offer automatic deposit because the part-time position didn’t qualify under their guidelines for automatic deposit. So not only was I working a sorry 12 hours a week, but now the bank was charging me a checking fee. I felt like the biggest loser for not finding this out ahead of time. The other position I had been offered was more hours, closer to home, with a weekly paycheck that included automatic deposit.
    Long story short I quit after working six weeks and gave the shortest resignation I’ve ever given in my career – two days. After a few weeks I realized it was difficult for me to acclimate working there – in four weeks I had worked 48 hours. Who can do a proper job under a short amount of time? Once I figured out I didn’t belong there I got the hell out in a hurry.

    Some people say “don’t burn your bridges’, but in my lifetime I’ve burned a couple and they became some of the best decisions I’ve made. You were probably angry for a good reason (perhaps they led you to believe one thing when really they had other intentions).
    Since then, I landed another temp position. I didn’t care that it was permanent (I learned my lesson!), but this time one of my priorities was the level of professionalism within the company culture. I could tell from my meetings that I was dealing with people who treated each other respectfully. The good thing is that it might lead into something permanent and help me get to where I want to be. And it’s a great company to work for!

    Keep doing what you’re doing and remember the road to success is never easy. Yes, corny, but so very true.

    • Thanks for sharing Marlene! In this industry, we place so much emphasis on relationships and its good to hear that even with a few bridges burned, you’re doing fine. I hate learning lessons when I’m in it, but looking back, I am glad.

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